Men should be men.
No?
At what age do we stop excusing a man’s behavior under the guise of boys will be boys? 25? 30? 35? 40? 45? 50?
Stop me when I reach the magic number.
I always find it amusing when a friend of mine justifies a man’s poor behavior based on the excuse that boys will be boys.
Now, all of you men who are reading this don’t take immediate offense. If this doesn’t apply to you, then move on graciously . . . like a man would.
As I prepare for the big 4 – 0 and beyond, I’m taking a look at many things, including what I find acceptable — and unacceptable — in the way I’m treated by a man.
No, I don’t believe there’s only one way to behave. If that was the case, then life would be incredibly predictable and boring. I merely have expectations for how all people should treat one another, along with what I think are reasonable suggestions for those starting or involved in any relationship.
- Show me respect, and show me that you want it, too.
- Be honest.
- Have an opinion — and share it.
- Stand up for what you believe.
- Mind your manners.
- Listen, and be heard.
- Be kind to those around you.
- Don’t be afraid of me.
- Take charge (when appropriate).
- Keep your inner child without being childish.
Once someone has mastered those 10 steps, we can talk about more advanced lessons.
I’m a lucky lady. I’ve always been surrounded by good people and inspired by great role models — men and women alike. I know we’re all capable of treating each other well, if we’re so inclined.
So, no more excuses for either sex.
I’ll continue to allow boys to be boys . . . but expect men to be men.
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